Being Single is the new #relationshipgoal

Embracing Solitude: The Art of Loving Being Single

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Following my divorce, I found myself convinced that being single was an unbearable prospect. I believed I needed a constant companion, regardless of their controlling or narcissistic tendencies – as long as I could avoid the label of “single.” For me, and especially for the older generation, being single had an unjustified stigma attached to it, making it appear almost taboo. In a world that often prioritizes romantic relationships and celebrates couplehood, with #relationshipgoals, being single can be perceived as a temporary status or even a sign of inadequacy. Following my most recent failed attempt at a lasting relationship, I embarked on a self-prescribed “boot camp” for self-discovery (which I am still going through). Yet, amidst this journey, I have made a profound realization about being single – I have come to love it. Being single can be a beautiful and fulfilling phase of life, its building a stronger sense of self, I can finally proclaim that “I know who I am”, its allowed me to discover and work on somethings about myself, to grow, and cultivate deep connections with the few friends I have and beyond the confines of a romantic partnership.

1. Self-Discovery and Personal Growth

Being single provides a unique opportunity for self-discovery and personal growth. It offers the time and space to explore your interests, passions, and values without the influence of a partner’s expectations. Embrace your single status as a chance to dive deep into introspection, identify your strengths and weaknesses, and work towards becoming the best version of yourself.

2. Freedom and Independence

One of the most significant advantages of being single is the freedom it brings. You have the autonomy to make decisions without having to consider another person’s preferences or desires. This independence enables you to pursue your dreams, travel to new places, take up exciting challenges, and shape your life on your terms.

3. Building Stronger Friendships

Being single allows you to invest more time and effort into nurturing meaningful friendships. Friendships are the backbone of a fulfilling life, and when you are unburdened by the responsibilities of a romantic relationship, you can focus on deepening your connections with friends. These bonds can provide invaluable support, companionship, and a sense of belonging.

4. Pursuing Passions and Hobbies

As a single individual, you can fully dedicate yourself to your passions and hobbies. Whether it’s art, sports, writing, or any other interest, you have the freedom to explore and excel in these activities. Engaging in what you love not only brings joy and fulfillment but also opens the door to meet like-minded individuals and expand your social circle.

5. Mindfulness and Emotional Independence

Embracing singlehood fosters mindfulness and emotional independence. Without the distraction of a romantic relationship, you can develop a deeper understanding of your emotions, reactions, and thought patterns. This self-awareness empowers you to build a stronger emotional foundation and make healthier decisions in all aspects of life.

6. Time for Self-Care

Loving being single also means cherishing the precious time you have for self-care. You can prioritize your well-being, whether it’s through meditation, exercise, reading, or simply spending quiet moments alone. Self-care is vital for mental and emotional health, and as a single person, you can devote ample time to nourishing your soul.

7. Fostering Meaningful Connections

Being single does not mean being isolated. On the contrary, it allows you to form deeper connections with friends, family, and even strangers. Engaging in social activities, volunteering, or participating in group events can lead to fulfilling interactions and expand your support network.

Loving being single is not about dismissing the value of romantic relationships, I absolutely look forward to a relationship again, but I recognize the unique advantages and opportunities this life offers me. I embrace this phase of life as an incredible journey of self-discovery, growth, and independence. Use the freedom you have to explore your passions, invest in meaningful connections, and take care of your emotional well-being. Remember, your happiness and fulfillment should not depend on being part of a couple, but on your ability to find joy and contentment within yourself. So, celebrate singlehood and make the most of every moment along the way!